• Improbable ROADS

    Improbable ROADS

    Im·prob·a·ble (imˈpräbəb(ə)l) is an adjective used to describe unlikely situations.

    • 1 not likely to be true or to happen.
    • 2 unexpected and inauthentic.

    Synonyms: unlikely, doubtful, dubious, debatable, questionable, uncertain, unconvincing, unbelievable, incredible, ridiculous, absurd, preposterous, outrageous, etc.

    I used improbable roads as the title of this blog because of the unlikely circumstances and the things I’ve learned all through my life. There are a lot of things that I never thought I could do, feel and say.

    • I was doubtful that I would ever become a nurse because I already gave up my profession years ago. Yet here I am. I’ve been an ED nurse for almost five years now. 119473399_355719169122116_6642028365554287910_n
    • It was also unlikely that I would eat vegetables because I hated them ever since I was born. I now eat veggies if I can, and has been a part of my meal plan every week.
    • I find it ridiculous to work without being paid or getting any compensation. I volunteered in a public hospital at home for six months and even went on a 16-hour shift, free of charge.
    • I’ve always found it absurd to work in Makati because of how densely populated the city is. I worked in one of the busiest ED’s in the Philippines and is in Makati Central.


    • I have always thought I would never age beyond 30 because life was so hard. I thought I would die of poverty. Now, I am turning 31 years old, just got married and just starting my own family with God at our center.
    • I’ve always believed that nothing good would ever come out of having a relationship with a coworker. My co-worker and I got married on the 9th of February this year in one of the most amazing places in New Zealand, Lake Tekapo.


    These are just some of the circumstances in my life that I thought would never happen. I thought that the peculiar events in my life would come to an end when I got married. Yet, I feel as though I am just at the beginning of a bigger story. I used to dream big, that a lot of things I wished for was beyond my reach. All that ever mattered then was just survival. The luxury of choice was a mere illusion for me even after graduation.

    Everything went black and white after I finished school. It took years before I finally understood that I lived in a fairy tale full of fictional characters with no super powers against evil stepmothers. It’s funny how a few words can either lift your spirits or break them completely. Fortunately for me, my mother’s words, “God has plans, and yours are different from His plans” were words that I lived by.

    I believe that everyone changes every day, and as they age, they either shift for the better or the worst. And I have come to understand that maturity doesn’t come with age. It just happens.

    I hope everything goes well with everyone who had the same sentiments as I had when I first wrote this blog. I wish you well, and may God bless you in your future endeavors. I pray that may you find your peace.

    “It is never too late to start over. If you are not too happy with yesterday, try something different today, do not stay stuck. Do better.”

  • Atypical Odyssey to Parenthood – 4 Stages That Couples Who Tries To Concieve Go Through

    Atypical Odyssey to Parenthood – 4 Stages That Couples Who Tries To Concieve Go Through

    After we got married, my father said “I hope next year we’ll start seeing kids running around the house.” Then I told myself, “yeah, I hope so too.”

    I think everybody starts with this kind of thought whenever they get the urge to get pregnant. It’s a great motivation to be honest, but sometimes, it can be the beginning of something heartbreaking.

    Well, after trying for 9 months (which is not that long unlike others who’s been waiting for 10 years), we learned a lot of unignored facts. One, pregnancy is not for everyone, that it takes time and a million cup of patience, and couples who wants to have a baby go through a series of stages.

    Stage 1 – The “LET’S MAKE A BABY ASAP FEVER”

    For some unknown and annoying reason, whenever a couple tries to be pregnant, they see babies everywhere. Sometimes, literally everywhere, in the most weirdest way.

    Like for example, I was at the vaccine center last time, and they said that no support person is allowed not unless needed. But when I went inside, lo and behold, there was a beautiful and adoring baby just after you pass through the front door. I don’t know why that baby was there, but it’s pretty sure odd to see them everywhere.

    I think, this is the stage where a couple gets excited in getting pregnant. They buy everything they need to concieve, and this is where everything starts to build – the trust, firm faith and mild anxiety. The brain tricks couples who’s trying to get pregnant to believe that it’s easy as ABC as long as you know the basics.

    This is also the time where couples are happy and excited cause they believe that they’re on their way to meet their mini-me’s. This stage lasts for, I think 2-3 months for some, but for others, it lasts for 4-5months. It really depends with ones faith and patience. And on the last month, that’s where all the inevitable and depressing questions start.

    Stage 2 – The “WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY”

    I’d say, this is by far the most heartbreaking and most expensive stage.

    This is the part where a portion of the monthly allowance (the wife mostly) goes to ovulation and pregnancy tests. In addition to fertility appointments, medications, and random laboratory tests.

    Couples tend to do a PT before the due date, which gives birth to guilt due to impatience and the urge to buy more tests. I think, this is one reason why the 6-days-before-missed-period tests were invented.

    OVULATION TEST – a test that determines if a woman is fertile enough to get pregnant. Check the link for a more detailed explanation.

    PREGNANCY TEST – well, it’s a test to determine if someone’s pregnant by detecting HCG in urine. There are occurences where it will show a false positive sign, but go to your doctor to be sure.

    Anyways, I think, this is the stage where I’ve spent a chunk of my money from March to July. This phase broke my heart, not because I always get a negative PT (pregnancy test), but because I can see how my husband’s heart breaks every month. I want to have kids of course, but he’s the one who’s so ready to be a dad.

    This is the period where all you ever think about is, “what’s wrong? Why can’t we have a baby? Is it because of me?”

    Then you’re going to try everything just to get pregnant. You’ll start eating food you don’t like and never thought exists, all the sexual positions possible, take all the vitamins regardless how much it costs, and listen to every one’s advice till you get confused and exhausted.

    And unfortunately, sometimes, this is the point in time where a marriage falls into wreck, regrets and whole lots of upsetting emotions. I think this one usually lasts for for 2-3 months, and for others, years. There’s more to this phase, but for now, I think this sums up everything.

    Stage 3 – The “I’M OKAY WITH WHATEVER”

    Credits to NBC News

    Also known as DENIAL. I think, this is the result of exhaustion, especially if you’re an impatient person. It’s also known as a mantra for people like me who likes to see results.

    This is the phase where couples tell themselves that they’re okay with whatever result they get. Pregnant or not, they don’t care anymore. But in all honesty, they do, and it’s inevitable not to care.

    The phase where a couple will tell themselves, sometimes out loud, that they’re okay if the test shows negative but cry deep down. In this time, couples, wives especially, have more control, they take PT on the due date or sometimes past the due unlike before.

    And in this stage as well is where they look at babies and kids with bitterness. No matter how hard they tell themselves that they’re happy for a friend who just got pregnant, they can’t help but to feel envious. I mean, they’re happy, but at the same time, they’re jealous too. Furthermore, due to these reasons that they detach themselves to friends who have children.

    I’d say this is the most difficult stage. It’s the time of their journey where they begin to realise the possibilities of walking through different crossroads. The road to hope that they can have kids, or the reality that having children is just not for everyone.

    Stage 4 – The “IT’S JUST NOT FOR US, FOR NOW”

    Finally, the acceptance stage where couples starts to realise that concieving is something that humans can’t plan in advance. Getting pregnant takes patience, faith and discipline. I think, after a few months of pondering and experiencing all the stages mentioned above, couples will start to accept everything naturally. There’s more realistic expectations and lesser anxiety.

    Couples can function well, stopped asking questions people how to get pregnant and starts being happy for others. They know that having kids is a possibility, but knows that there are other ways to have children. There are those who have come to an understanding that children are not for them, so they go with adopting animals such as dogs, cats etc to make them feel better. And others considers adoption.

    This is a fruitful journey, and I hope I can write a book about this someday.

    Credits to Scientific Media

    When I was a kid, I heard a beauty queen said, “the essence of being a woman is being a mother.” Ever since that day, all I ever wanted was to be a mom. But after everything I went through, I’ve decided that I’m not suited to be a parent, so I forgot about it. Not till I met my husband. He made me remember what that beauty queen said.

    But just like others, I was excited, happy and impatient. Then after going through all these stages, I’ve realised that there’s more to life than to be a parent. To be honest, we were happy that we went through these difficult phases in our married life. These helped us to be strong and have taught us something that we didn’t know we don’t know.

    To whoever is reading this, believe that God prepared something for us. Being a parent may not be for us, but remember that everybody is born for a reason that’s beyond comprehension. Let’s be faithful and wait for that.

  • Atypical Odyssey to Parenthood – Getting Pregnant

    Atypical Odyssey to Parenthood – Getting Pregnant

    Well, lately our life has been quite complicated. When we got married earlier this year, we told ourselves that we’re ready to be parents. So, we pretty much did everything we can to get pregnant. There were days when we were not even sure if we want to have a kid, especially with what’s happening to the world right now.

    Listening to the news have tricked my mind to believe that, getting pregnant is a selfish decision. I don’t know, but to be honest, there are days when I think it is. But of course, since women are complicated and annoying, there are days where all I wanted was to have a baby.

    Then again, I never thought that getting pregnant is difficult. But, hey, life is short. Instead of focusing on the negatives, why don’t I think about the positive. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom, so I don’t even know what will I do if I get pregnant. Like, do I stay at home or work? I mean, I got a lot of questions in my head, so I think I’m really not ready.

    So, we’re doing everything we can to get pregnant. We started living healthy, less coffee (which sucks by the way), sleep early, drink gazillion of vitamins, and pee on small excruciatingly annoying sticks just to see if I’m ovulating or what.

    And I’ve been doing it for nine months, and one thing’s for sure — getting pregnant is expensive. I’ve come to realise that couples who are trying are emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually tough, it’s not easy! Especially for those who are trying for more than a decade! But of course, I believe that God has a plan for everyone.

    I dowloaded an interesting app that focuses solely on pregnant and women who’s trying to conceive. It’s called Flo. To be honest, I thought the app will annoy me and make me impatient. But no, it actually inspired me and make me laugh everyday! It’s ironic how people can joke about their desire to have children, thinking about everything they go through — needles, lots of medications, carnival of emotions and a whole lot more needle in the vagina.

    I’ve met all kinds of people who’s like me in that app. It’s a nice one cause it will not show anything about its members. It just uses cute animal avatars that don’t have names, so you will not have any idea who you’re chatting to, who the people are, and where are they from. You won’t have any idea who’s reading your story and comments.

    The members open up and share everything to everyone, and it’s really nice! They support each other and share happy and devastating stories. I never had any idea till I downloaded the app. And because of everything that I read in that app, I’m now much more annoyed with people who keep on asking the when and why to couples who are happily married.

    I salute women like me who’s trying to conceive and the future dads too!

    It doesn’t matter if you make love a lot, if it’s not your time, then it’s not. But don’t lose hope, if you’re like me, then let’s believe. Let’s both hope that one day, we will have our time. But for now, let’s enjoy the life we’ll say goodbye to when we get knocked up.

  • There Are No Mistakes In Life, Just Lessons and — Blogging Failures

    There Are No Mistakes In Life, Just Lessons and — Blogging Failures

    Well, I like to write. I started when I was, I’m not sure, 12 or 13 years old? I was using the basic pen and school notebook. Then after I discovered the internet, I started blogging. I was using Blogspot, which is now known as Blogger. Then, moving forward a few more years, because of a good friend who shared the same interest, I discovered WordPress. 

    I was pretty happy and contented. I write one or two blogs in a month, depending on how I feel. So, I thought — “why not make some money off it?” 

    So, I started binge-watching WordPress tutorials, studying different courses and spent hours working on the design of my website. I bought my first self-hosted site this June 2021, and I thought, “I can do this”.

    After a few months of actively blogging, I got exhausted. Even my husband got tired of editing the blogs I’m sending him every day. I thought, maybe, posting or writing a blog every day is not good. 

    I tried writing three to four times a week. It went well at first but didn’t go so well in the latter. My husband told me, “I think you’re keeping yourself busy with that blog site, and you have forgotten how to relax.” 

    I got sad, but I thought, “I will not give up and will continue to write.” 

    So, I focused on my writing and started doing everything on my own. I proofread my articles and made sure that they will be interesting. 

    After spending hours in Canva choosing the right images, writing blogs related to the categories I’ve chosen, and chatting with Bluehost rep about transferring my domain, I got exhausted. I didn’t sleep well. I had a headache, got too stressed out and lost my focus. 

    I thought I can work on my blog while working as a full-time emergency nurse. Despite everything, I didn’t stop. I continued writing. I got obsessed with the idea that my blog will be successful. I got too consumed with the thought that I’ve forgotten the fun of writing and playing with words.

    And unfortunately, because of my frustrations, I’ve forgotten all the great ideas in my head and my goal. I started struggling and started forcing myself to think about what to write than writing what I think. Before I bought my self-hosted site, I had a lot of unique ideas. Too many that I kept writing them everywhere. I wrote some of them in my notes, on the whiteboard and Ipad. But now, I’m left with nothing but regrets and questions like, “why did I buy the site unprepared?”

    Then I decided, maybe I should stop for a while. Until one day, my husband told me, “I’ve been waiting for you to stop blogging. Maybe this time you’ll have more time for me.” I was surprised, and I got really sad. I’ve forgotten how we made a promise, that we’re gonna try to conceive this year. Moreover, he said that ever since I bought Bluehost, all I ever thought about was work.  

    It got me thinking, what did I do wrong? I followed everything that the groups told me to do. I focused on the important points, so I won’t miss anything. I made sure that I had the dedication to start and maintain the blog. Then after a few days of thinking and several cups of coffee, I realised — “you can’t haggle with time.” 

    It’s either one or the other. You can’t serve two masters at the same time, Jesus said so. I’ve forgotten that we only have 24 hours, minus 6-8 hours to sleep, and the other 8 hours to work. So, whatever I do, it will never work out, not unless I reduce my hours which is quite impossible at this stage. 

    I’ve decided, maybe, I should just go back to how I was before – writing articles once or twice a month and hopefully, find the joy of writing again. 

    I realized this is the first time I’ve checked my site after my last post on the 19th of August.

    I know that I need to decide if I’ll keep this site or not. For now, I’ve cancelled my renewable subscription to Bluehost, deleted all this blog’s social media account and placed back all my social accounts just like before. 

    Furthermore, I realised that I didn’t want any of my co-workers to know that I write blogs, especially with how the term BLOGGER is misused lately. 

    I want to share my life, misfortunes and experiences with the world, but not tell anyone in broad daylight that I’m improbable roads! I don’t know, I’m odd, and I don’t like it when people say stuff that will make me feel like I’m on centre stage.

    Before I decided to make this blog site public and earn from it, nobody knew I was improbable roads, and it was okay for me. But now, after everything, people have been calling me different names and using improbable roads as a way of calling me. I don’t know if I’m the problem or if I’m just too sensitive. 

    Well anyhow, I felt relieved and happy while I’m writing this article. For now, I’ve cancelled my Bluehost, and maybe I’ll just renew it next year so I can keep this website. I’ve left from all the blogging groups and un-enrolled from all the blogging courses. 

    For someone who’s starting to write a blog site to earn money, I got three things to say to you: 

    1. ESTABLISH A PROOF-FOOL PLAN before you start a blog, or buy a self-hosted site. Don’t make the same mistake I did. List your do’s and don’ts properly so that you won’t waste money buying software or whatever that’s online that you won’t need.

    2. SIT DOWN AND THINK THOROUGHLY IF YOU’LL HAVE THE TIME TO COMMIT. Creating a blog site that earns money needs a firm commitment and dedication. If you have a full-time job, either you choose or create a blog that can match up with your reality and not your expectations. 

    3. And lastly, always make sure that the topics you choose or niche is your forte. I’ve changed my categories almost five times. Now, I’m keeping the ones I like. Be yourself, and you’ll be surprised how far your ideas can take you. 

  • My Thoughts on Emergency Nursing

    My Thoughts on Emergency Nursing

    Working in the emergency department has been my lifelong dream ever since I started walking the path of nursing. I’ve been to several EDs as a watcher because of my father who’s always sick almost every month since I was 9 years old.

    I’ve seen the heroic acts of doctors, nurses, cleaners, radtechs and personnel staff. It may not sound right but whenever we go to ED, there’s this certain level of anxiety that excites me.

    Typical Resus Bay
    Credits to Emergency Medicine by Health Lab

    I never intended to be a nurse but it was the only choice I had then. So, after years of hard work, washing blood-blemished uniforms, dealing with stress because of exams and bringing big piles of books to school that I rarely opened. I ended up becoming a Registered Nurse.

    I didn’t start in ED, I became a medical-surgical nurse for almost eight months before I got permission to do a departmental transfer.

    As soon as I got the, “Congratulations! You’ll start next Monday” I was ecstatic. I started daydreaming, imagining myself to be the nurse that saves the day. I couldn’t help but think about the action, keeping up with the coffee and pumping that adrenaline that keeps you working. It was mind-blowing!

    I woke up early, ate my breakfast, put on my make-up and went to work early. As I entered the ED, the smell of cleanliness, filth, dry blood and medication welcomed me. Then as I started on that very same day, as I became one of the staff, my mind went blank and all of the excitement that I had in my heart vanished.

    Then I began to understand, emergency nursing is nothing like what I had in mind. It’s chaos with compassion.

    Credits to Wikipedia’s Emergency Medicine

    My early years as an ED nurse could be summed up with a couple of words/tasks – brisk walking, mental health, attitude, bullying, working under pressure, ignorance, and numbness.

    Brisk Walking – Never run or you’ll make everyone panic. Regardless if it’s busy or not, always try your best to finish what you’re doing because you never know what will happen.

    Mental Health – Rest if you must, but never quit. Life is all about adversities. Work-life balance is not that achievable in this career path. Drink your coffee on your work days, talk with friends, sleep on your day-off and strengthen your mind whenever you get the chance.

    Attitude – One thing is for sure, as soon as you start working in ED or in any other place that’s pressure-driven, your attitude will change. I’ll be 100% honest, it will not change you for the better but it will teach you how to survive life’s greatest predicaments. You will understand how non-stop perseverance works, that time dictates your patience and that there’s more to you. As bad as it sounds, it will bring out the good and the worst in you.

    Up until such time that you’ll start asking yourself, “what happened to me?” or “when did I become like this?” I’m not sure about the others but that’s what happened to me.

    Bullying – Others are there to help, but not all. Some are just tired of how broken the system is. And instead of helping you out, they burden you with their disappointments and frustration. They’ll make you feel that you can’t do it, you’re not for ED and you don’t deserve to wear the ED badge — but just like what I said, rest if you must but never quit.

    Not everyone does it just because they want to. There are those who’ll push you to your limit, and help you to grow by teaching you their experiences and share the lessons they learned by failing.

    Working under pressure – Sounds easy not unless someone’s life depends on it, like calculating drugs. Man I’m telling you it’s a lifelong challenge that I’m still working on to perfect.

    Credits to RN Center

    Ignorance and Numbness – Life is unfair. It’s an inevitable fact that we can’t do anything about. There are circumstances in our life that we can’t change, what more for other people, or let’s say our patients. There’s an irrefutable fact that I’ve learned to understand for five years of working as an ED nurse, I can’t help everyone – especially with the long wait and financial assistance.

    Even if I give my life, it will never be enough. I can lend someone money to buy medications but what about the next patient? We can’t, because as human beings, we’re limited beyond our capabilities. So instead, we just move on to the next patient as if nothing happened. Being numb to the pain that we don’t have control over troubling situations is the only choice we have.

    The patients who come to ED are not just physically sick, they’re emotionally, spiritually, financially and mentally unwell too. So when nurses receive them, they’re wholly broken. Imagine receiving 20-50 in a day. But I’m not whining or anything, I know that it’s our job and we chose this ourselves.

    Times have changed as well, people are getting sicker, accidents are rampant and with the pandemic, the communities are mentally exhausted. The world needs more nurses, but with how things are going I don’t think everybody wants to be an RN anymore.

    To be honest, despite all the challenges, I fell in love with Emergency Nursing. I don’t see myself working in any other department, but I’m a thread away to shifting careers.

    Unlike before, emergency nursing is now becoming the lesser choice for nurses. Everybody leaves, they choose a career where they can breath every once and a while. They choose to be employed in corporate world or anywhere that’s outside the hospital where they feel valued.

    If this continues, what will happen to the young ones who were like me five years ago?

    Experience is important when you’re working as a nurse, whether in ED or anywhere. At the end of the day, it’s always the lessons that you learned along the way that you pass on to the next generations.

  • Live A Debt-Free Life, It’s Never Easy, But It’s Worth It

    Live A Debt-Free Life, It’s Never Easy, But It’s Worth It

    I was born in a poverty-stricken family where debt is a necessity. Even if we don’t have the funds to pay them, borrowing money from friends and relatives is the only and last resort. I grew up with this kind of mentality since primary school.

    And whenever I ask my mom how will we pay them back, she’ll just tell me, “God will provide.” 

    I sincerely believe in that, but I also know that it’s on a case-to-case basis. So, of course, as the eldest daughter, I’m always the representative whenever we loan money from other people, especially to my relatives (I always ask my sister to do the talking and bribe her with candies since they think she’s cute)

    I had my first debt when I was in primary school. I started with $1, which I used to buy a pen. I thought, “well, that’s pretty easy. It’s just a dollar, I’ll pay it soon.” But I didn’t, I forgot about it and didn’t have any extra to pay that $1. Then when I remembered it after a few weeks, I ended up doing his assignment instead. 

    But I didn’t learn my lesson. I still had the urge to keep borrowing money from people because that’s the picture I saw growing up. It was frustrating, I was a kid, not merely 12 years old.

    But we didn’t have any choice. We were poor, we needed to eat, thus didn’t have the money to support ourselves.

    My debt grew as I age, I’ve paid some of it, and offered jobs for the others. I made my classmate’s projects in exchange for the money I owed. Then as I started college, graduated, got employed, and then boom! My debt list blew up from one paper to a lifetime. 

    Up until now, I still ponder on those times, so I’ll never forget them. All the debts, the humiliation and the determination to one day put an end to it. 

    I like how YourDictionary defined debt, 

    “Debt is defined as owing money, owed money that is past due or the feeling as if you owe someone something. An obligation or liability to pay or return something.”

    So it’s not just about money. Since my family had a lot of debt, we spend most of our younger days working for the people we owe money to. Don’t get me wrong, I’m thankful for everyone who helped us, especially those who supported me financially during my college years. 

    But sadly, some of them asked for something too much to bear that created irreversible damage that only God can fix. I told my mom one time, “I think I was born to pay for all the debts we have in this lifetime.” 

    Because of everything that happened, I now get the feeling that whenever I borrow something from others, whether it’s money or some petty random stuff, I’m obliged to give them a part of my life. 

    I hated that haunting feeling. I wanted to be debt-free, that’s why I started working several part-time jobs. But whatever I do, it was never enough. I didn’t know what to do. I felt limited. I felt like I didn’t have many options because my family relied on me.

    Plus, I have loans on my own because I kept buying stuff and pay it in instalments! See, I had this mentality that, since I don’t have the money to get what I want, maybe I can buy it by paying it off in small portions. But no, It was not a good idea. 

    So, I had a mountain of debt. I’ve lived my life like that for years. 

    Then I met my husband (well, I didn’t know that yet at that time)

    His family used to be well-off, but due to some problems, everything went downhill, and their family ended up paying for the majority of the loss. They filed for bankruptcy. They lost everything and ended up having an enormous loan that they didn’t even spend.  

    He said, “give it some time, talk to your family and start living a debt-free life, get your debit card, I think it’s time”. Just to tell you a bit of a story, there’s this person that lends financial aid to people in our office. She will give you what you need regardless of the amount, but you have to give your debit card to her. 

    She’ll be the one to get your salary in the machine, minus your monthly payment, and hand over whatever’s left. She had my card for two long years. Every payday, at least 10 of us go to McDonald’s and wait for her. 

    When he told me that, I got scared. I don’t think I can live without debt. It saved me a million times. I started having doubts, re-created the scenarios where we didn’t have something to eat and reminisced the stress of not having enough money to pay for the bills. And the fear of begging our relatives for money again. 

    But I followed his advice. I sold the mobile phone he gave me as a gift. He was sad at first, but he said, “you have to promise me, if you’re going to sell that phone, you’ll start cutting the rope that ties you up with that human ATM.” 

    So I sold the phone and paid some of the extra side-debts I had. It was awful, unforgettable, but was a life-changing experience. My parents were quite confused about how come I can’t provide more than usual anymore.

    And to my surprise, we got through our financial hardships, and they even helped me produce funds for my sister’s college. I didn’t even know that it was possible.  

    After that day – I forgot what day it was, but it was the 15th – I think it was 2013. I promised myself that I’ll never borrow money again – not unless it’s an emergency, of course. 

    The next few months didn’t go well as planned. My mom kept hoarding debts, and I’m the only one who’s paying for it. But despite all the stress and the sleepless nights, I didn’t apply for any loan. I’ve lived on coffee, didn’t go out, or buy food in the pantry.

    I started walking home instead of riding the bus. I believe that someone needs to be that first domino tile that needs to fall so that all the other tiles will follow. 

    I started working hard and slowly noticed that my family and my attitude towards money has changed. We stopped buying things I didn’t even know we didn’t need and quit overspending on groceries.

    Moreover, my mom stopped talking to our neighbours that owe a lot of money to several people that kept referring her to lending companies or asking her to be their co-maker.

    I took the responsibility of handling our finances. It was pretty hard, but I needed to stand up for our family. I became strict with how our finances come and goes. I made a list for everything, for groceries, debts and bills. I’m not an accountant, but I learned different strategies by reading, watching videos and seeking advice from financially literate people. 

    Then our lives and perspective changed. Everything I feared didn’t happen. We didn’t live luxuriously, but we had what we need. We never had the chance to eat in fancy restaurants, but we had food on the table.

    We had more predicaments and misunderstandings as a family, but at least we felt free from the chains of continuous debt or that feeling of obligation that we had to give a part of our life to someone else.

    I realise that if you have the perseverance and the DISCIPLINE to stop buying the things you don’t need and prevent adding extra monthly bills or expenses in your life, you’ll have a stable financial run. I always remember what my preceptor tells me, “never spend money you don’t have yet.”

    Lately, I’m watching videos that will help me more in achieving my goal. I like Rose Han, she helped me a lot – and no, this is not an advertisement for her channel. 

    Anyway, I’m trying to pay off some of the multi-debts I had at home. One by one, and in time, i’ll be debt-free. I have quite a few. Hopefully, one day I can be debt-free and let go of that rope that ties me up to that heavy feeling of always owing something that’s not rightfully mine. 

  • 8 Disadvantages of Rushed Writing

    8 Disadvantages of Rushed Writing

    I started writing when I was 12 years old. I’m not an English native speaker so my posts were terrible back then. My grammar was annoyingly incorrect, my vocabulary lacks substance, and even my sentence construction was incomprehensible. I’m not saying that I’m a pro now, but at least I can write an article that people can read and understand.

    Then I took a long break cause my dad doesn’t like the idea of me writing. His brother ended up broke because he took up journalism in college and became a reporter after. He thought that if I pursue my passion, I might end up just like him. 

    Well, I think he was successful. It’s just that he didn’t push for fame and glory like his fellow journalists. He helped a lot of people, and now he prefers to just stay at home and relax. Both his children finished college and have jobs of their own. 

    Then I decided that maybe I can go back to writing again. It was quite okay but not satisfying. But I still think it’s funny when you re-read your old posts. After reading one article after another, you can’t help but ask yourself, “what was I thinking when I was writing this?”. 

    After a few years of neglecting my site, I knew that I needed a comeback. And I think writing is one passion people should never forget. It’s like a time capsule that you can access 24/7. I was using Blogger before changing to WordPress. I started by writing one blog a month, sometimes every three months. 

    I got satisfied with the articles that I wrote back then, I thought it was good. Then after re-reading it, I realised that most of it were remarkably terrible. I suddenly remembered that when I started writing again, I was always rushing. I was aiming to finish it quickly, read it once, and post it, cause I thought I need to be efficient.

    So, I asked for help. 

    It went well in the first few weeks cause my husband was revising my blog posts. But he got busy because of an important sport, so I had to do it all on my own. After the match, he read some of the articles I made. 

    He said, “what happened to your writing? It’s long but it doesn’t have any substance. Stop rushing to post one article a day. I’d say, try to sit down and re-read them several times before you post it. Always put yourself in your reader’s shoes.”

    I was taken aback. All this time I thought I was giving it my all. So, I sat down and read all the articles he polished and the ones I made. After re-reading some of it, I began to understand how he found out that I was hurrying to finish the articles. 

    1. The grammar lapses are obvious. 
    • No explanation nor excuses. I’m working really hard on this, that’s why it’s in number one. I’m now working on reading more books and listen to podcasts.

    2. My train of thought is just all over the place 

    • I think this happens when I get too excited about a topic. So now, I try to write a set of drafts and then just pick which one is the best. Then I’ll think about it on that same day I wrote it, then read it again the next day.

    3. I’ve been using the same words several times in one paragraph. The vocabulary is nonsense.

    • I intentionally use the same words when writing, and thinking that I’ll just go back to it after I finish the entire article to rectify it. But since I get too excited most times, I end up forgetting about it. Then I will just find out maybe after a few weeks or several months. 
    • I don’t want to get used to this kind of bad habit. So now, I make sure to fix whatever the lapses are and modify it right there and then.
    Credits to Kthedesigner

    4. The words are too deep that he thinks some readers might not know what it means, and it doesn’t even fit in some of the sentences 

    • After taking the IELTS exam, I got stuck with the mindset that utilising highfalutin words is a must to produce a high-quality article. But after reading some of the best blog posts in Reader in WordPress, I realized I was wrong. Using basic and simple words that’s easy to understand helped me more in expressing myself than utilising unfamiliar words.

    5. I keep using complex sentence construction because it sounds neat and intelligent. 

    • I tried using SKELL, it’s a website that tells you if you’re using the words correctly in a sentence. Whenever I tried keying a word, as long as it sounds fine, I use it right away without thinking about it. But now, I’ve come to understand that quality articles should be written using the KISS method – Keep IShort and Simple. 

    6. The sentences are quite long that it doesn’t make sense sometimes anymore. 

    • I think I get too excited that I always write the first idea that pops up in my head without having second thoughts. And because of IELTS, again, I thought that writing long sentences is the key to success in blogging. Well, based on research, a lengthy blog post focused on SEO can help a blogger grow its network and gain more readers.

    • Therefore, I’ve come to understand that writing long posts just for an article to look good is a big no-no. It needs to be interesting and knowledgable. I also learned that if I want to write a lengthy article, it needs to have SEO. It has to have substance and should concentrate on the main topic to avoid going astray. 

    7. There are instances that I even contradict myself. 

    • I write in Thought Catalog too! But this is a comment I got three times in a row from my editor. It’s beginning to be an awful habit. I now try my best to re-read it several times, and sort out my opinions by writing it in my I-pad. Sometimes I read it aloud to understand it better. 

    8. I rely too much on Grammarly

    • It is a good app, but I’m utilising the free one which means I don’t get the most out of it. I just found out from a friend who purchased the complete package that it helps, but not entirely. The majority of the work will still depend on the writer. The sentence construction, the vocabulary and the presentation of ideas. 

    • There’s also another app that helped me a lot when I was working as a content writer, it’s for free too, it’s called Polish My Writing.

    I’m not saying that I write like a pro now. I realised that if I want to produce a quality article, I need to give it some thought. Read it at least five times, constantly have the persistence to do it, and find someone who will also have the patience to read it and edit it articulately and accurately. 

    See, I used another complex sentence! Well, I’m working on it. Thanks to everyone who still reads my blog. And thanks for reading this one as well! I hope you will still keep visiting my site 🙂  

  • Why Is God Strong When We Are Weak?

    Why Is God Strong When We Are Weak?

    When I was young, my mom always tells me, “God is strong when we are weak” whenever we face difficulties with life. And it is a phrase I never understood not until recently.

    I haven’t posted anything for the past few days because I participated in our mid-year prayer and fasting. I had a few prayer requests, but I mostly focused on giving thanks. 

    I’ve been partaking in our church prayer and fasting for almost 10 years. Of all, I felt that this mid-year was the most challenging. It was so hard to put my focus on God alone. Apart from the fact that my head is a spaghetti junction of troubled thoughts, I also work as an ED nurse.

    After so many years of doing it, this is the first time I’ve become too distracted for some reason, I’m not sure why. I struggled cause I didn’t know what the problem was. Then I remembered the seven words my mom keep telling me whenever she feel troubled.

    God is strong when we are weak. 

    So, I sat down, drank coffee and ponder on those words. Then a few heartbreaking thoughts came into my head. 

    I realized that I’m distracted because I’m doing pretty well. Yes, I still have problems, but it’s manageable compared to the issues I had before. I’m much more settled and content with what I have. In contrary to the life I had for the past few years, I’m doing way better this 2021. Unlike before that I had to rely on God alone for everything.

    But now, my selfishness is starting to take over my mind, soul and body. My heart is full of greed and my thoughts are all over the place. All I ever think about is my job, blog, wife duties and responsibilities to my family. 

    Mt.Cargil We always pray whenever we reach the peak, my husband said that for some reason, he feels closer to God.

    I don’t want to be that someone who prays just because I need something. I want to be that person that does not forget God even when the circumstances are not in my favour.  

    I think this is what happens when we’re doing okay. We don’t seek Him anymore, and give Him the attention He deserves to have. I pray to give thanks, but sometimes I get the feeling that I’m just chanting empty prayers just to say that I did. 

    I believe that God is the only light that can take us out of the dark. So, on the last day of prayer and fasting, I tried to remember different scenarios in my life that I had to call out to God desperately.

    And surprisingly, it did help me to connect with God. But it doesn’t mean that it only happens when you’re sad, lonely or broken.

    I remembered some of the random stories my friends told me. They find it surprising that whenever they feel that there’s no hope or when there’s overwhelming joy, their heart tells them to pray to God. I think recollections like these are reminders that whatever we do, God is always in control.

    He wants us to be happy. He doesn’t want to see us suffering. He always wants what’s best for us. But unfortunately, as soon as He begins to answer our prayers, we disregard Him and ignore His plans for us. We begin to forget the days when we were desperately praying for the blessings we now have.

    That’s why God is strong when we are weak because we only call out to Him sincerely when our problems are out of control, when our selfish plans have failed and we have exhausted every last bit of hope this world offers. 

    And most days, instead of seeking Him first when trouble comes, He becomes our last resort 💔

    I hope that may we all remember Him every day. Even when times are good, even when we have what we need. I pray that may we always find the hope and the joy that comes from Jesus Christ alone. 

    Thanks for reading! God bless you ❤

  • So What If Your Social Battery Is Low? Trust Me, That’s Fine.

    So What If Your Social Battery Is Low? Trust Me, That’s Fine.

    Being alive means having a consistent connection with other human beings. It gives us an unexplainable warm feeling that we can’t comprehend. It’s like sucking on your favourite chocolate bar for a long time until your lips feel dry. It’s the same when you socialise too much with your friends or co-workers.

    We all have that “social battery”. When I tried searching for its definition, one article stood out the most. It says,

    The social battery is a relative term that changes from person to person. An introvert’s battery is fully charged in the beginning then gets drained before the day ends. Whereas in an extroverts case, their battery is usually empty when their day starts, therefore they need to be with other people to re-charge.

    – Psychreel (What Is Your Social Battery?)

    This article supports the idea that mingling with others fuels extroverts. It’s a fact indeed, but not at all times. After social media was created and with the pandemic forcing people to stay at home for a long time – I’m getting the idea that several people have discovered the joy of being in solitude.

    Trying to think about several topics to talk about endlessly can be exhausting. Especially if you haven’t seen each other for a long time, or the other way around, you’re always together every day!

    If you’re one of those who like to spend your day quietly from time to time, who prefers to sip on a hot mug alone than in a coffee shop with a co-worker, or just sit in front of the beach on your own sometimes, then this blog is for you.

    It may seem odd for others because you’re always that hyped, overly excited team member, so what? That’s fine. Stay away from them for now, it’s for the best.

    Some people think it’s cool to be an introvert, so they forcibly act like one even though they’re not because they want to take a break from all the social madness. I admit I’m guilty of this.

    Like this cat (Sunday) who decided to stay away from me because I’m being annoying

    So, instead of focusing on telling people that you’ve decided to shift from being a sociable pal to an introvert, just be yourself, rest when everything seems too tiring, and come out when you’re ready for the world again.

    Cut yourself some slack and exclude yourself out if your social metre is starting to be low on battery. Don’t feel bad if you don’t like going out every day anymore. Don’t feel guilty if you keep rejecting the invites you get every week. Quit apologizing for the days you always miss whenever there’s a quiz night.

    Start saying no to some of the every other day gatherings you’ve been wanting to say no to. Stop isolating yourself from the judgemental people who kept saying that you’ve changed. So what you’ve changed?

    A person’s growth is not determined by what others think, it’s about what they think about themselves. You’re still you, you’re still the same fun, outgoing, the loud and talkative person as before. It’s just that, this time you have boundaries or limitations to your social life.

    Don’t feel bad if you think your social battery is constantly low, that’s okay. People change, we all do. Stop bothering yourself with such thoughts, start focusing on what will make you feel better. Start working on what God wants for you. Don’t be afraid to say no.

    Free yourself from the “I need to be there” burden. Be there when you need to, but be there for yourself too when you need liberty from this noisy society. I can relate to this because whenever I want to just stay at home with my big cup of coffee, and stay quiet for some time, my friends always get the impression that I have a problem, well I don’t. (Thanks for the care though ❤)

    I’m just tired from talking and socialising. It felt good when my husband told me to try to stay at home for a month to be honest. I thought it would be a long, dreadful, irritating and a slow one month. I was wrong, instead of feeling excited after that one short month, I realised I wanted more days off from the world.

    So, if you’re like me and you’re getting the vibe that you want to switch off the happy and hyped version of you, go ahead and do it in moderation. Trust me, it’s addictive.

  • 5 Money Lessons My Thrifty Couple Friends Taught Me

    5 Money Lessons My Thrifty Couple Friends Taught Me

    How do we save money correctly? I think we all know the answer to that. Open a bank account, keep the cash, avoid clearances, blah blah. But do we really know how?

    Personal finance is a longstanding and a complicated issue. Obtaining a secure account will never be enough for someone who always thinks that everything in this world is a necessity. 

    Do you want to know why whatever you do, or how hard you work you always end up having $0 balance at the end of the day? I think you should start checking your spending habits.

    Now, do you have that friend who’s exaggeratedly thrifty? If you have one, I strongly suggest that you keep them in your circle and observe how they handle their finances. 

    I’ll tell you about the couple I met here in Dunedin.

    I studied international nursing when I arrived here in New Zealand, and we were in the same class. Being seatmates for quite some time, we became friends. 

    After knowing them for almost two years – I found out that they have loads of money to support their needs and still have enough for their wants. They’ve also been to different parts of the world, and they’re not even 30 years old. 

    They taught me a lot of things that I’ve known all along but just ignored. After a few days of hanging out with them, I ended up adapting some of their financial beliefs and habits. Here are some of my top favourites, 

    THEY DON’T BUY ANYTHING ON SALE EVEN IF THEY THINK THEY NEED IT (sometimes even if I think they need it lol)

    Yep, I think we’re all guilty when it comes to buying things we don’t need. I know this has been the most common reminder of all time. I know this from the bottom of my heart, but I just 100% ignore it. 

    Whenever we go to the mall, I can’t help but to observe their spending habits.

    They always deliberate whenever they want to buy something, even if they might need it in the future or whenever. Then after a few minutes of discussion, they end up not purchasing anything and choose to deliberate more for a few days. LOL

    Credits to Istock photos

    It gave me the realisation that we always buy things on sale because we think we might need them, even if we already have something comparable at home. 

    And that’s how we usually get carried away, and boom! We go home with the same product we bought a week ago but with just a different colour. 


    Ever since I’ve been friends with them, I’ve never bought anything more than $100. Even my wedding gown cost $49.99, it looked awful at first, but after some alteration, it ended up looking like it’s worth $700-$900. We bought it in a thrift shop. 

    We never buy clothes for more than $2NZD when we’re in a second-hand shop, but if we’re in a boutique, we don’t purchase anything that’s more than $50NZD. 

    Plus, most of the clothes I buy from clearance shops are nice and classy. Sometimes, I even find treasures like Zara and Cotton On. At least, if I don’t wear them much or if they don’t fit anymore, it’ll be easier to give them up. 

    It’s better to have a backup plan when things get out of hand than a pile of expensive clothes that will wear and tear in time. 


    Save now, buy later – I think that’s always their mantra. They never buy anything that involves split payments. I know it may be impossible for some, but I realised that if you’re patient enough to save – it’s possible. 

    And whenever they buy something, they always check the tag description to verify if there are free goods and the discount or the interest if they pay it in cash. Let’s all be honest, we usually look at the price tag, and then that’s it. 

    Credits to IStock Photo

    They create a plan for everything, especially when it comes to spending. And to be honest, I’m amazed by this couple’s attention to detail. 


    This couple taught me that patience is a virtue. They will look around for as long as they can if they want something. It doesn’t matter if it’ll take days. They won’t stop till they find something cheaper.

    She always tells me things like, “don’t buy that chair for $100, if you can get it in Kmart for less than $50”. She also taught me that having fun is a matter of personal opinion, and having the patience to look for coupons and discounts before buying something is always a good thing to consider. 


    This couple helps everyone. They are kind people who speak kind words to those who need it, especially the struggling ones. I know this may be out of topic, but I think it’s quite important.

    They don’t overcharge their tenants as landlords, they lend money to those who need it, live with a positive mindset, and remain humble beyond compare. 

    These are just some of the things they’ve taught me for almost one year. I realised that if you’re with the right people who can influence you with the proper mindset, your goals become more attainable and realistic. 

    Then the next thing you know, you’ve saved up more than you could ever think.

    Everything becomes too overpriced, and people keep on purchasing things they don’t need because of FOMO (fear of missing out). 

    Even though I have a huge debt, I was able to save money. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to indulge yourself and enjoy your hard-earned money, but sometimes, the world gets so greedy that people’s lives just revolves around it. 

  • Compilation: A Year in New Zealand

    Compilation: A Year in New Zealand

    God has been really good to us. This video is a compilation of some of the best places we’ve been in the southern island of New Zealand and the wonderful people we’ve known along the way.

    Living far away from home means being separated from your old self. So, instead of focusing on your homesickness, why not wander around and explore the beauty of your city. Remember, God created the world with the best of the best.

    We’ve hiked some of the best trails in South Island, New Zealand – Roys Peak, Pineapple Track, and Mt Cook. We’ve visited the famous Wanaka Tree and Milford Sound – videos and pictures to follow.

    Roys Peak

    And one of the best things that happened to us was when we met the people who became family.

    I’m happy that God introduced these people to us. They’ve taught us that life is worth living despite the difficulties. They taught us that we shouldn’t rush things because time has its way of getting ahead, and it’s something that God doesn’t want us to know yet.

    We have friends that are not included in this clip because we lost some of the videos we had with them. But, you know who you are guys, thanks for always being with us. You guys may be miles away, from north to south, still, thank you.

    Thank you for the laughter, lessons, encouragement, hospitality and for being our strength when everything seems to be failing.

    Credit to the Culture Trip for the Photo