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    Improbable ROADS

    Im·prob·a·ble (imˈpräbəb(ə)l) is an adjective used to describe unlikely situations.

    • 1 not likely to be true or to happen.
    • 2 unexpected and inauthentic.

    Synonyms: unlikely, doubtful, dubious, debatable, questionable, uncertain, unconvincing, unbelievable, incredible, ridiculous, absurd, preposterous, outrageous, etc.

    I used improbable roads as the title of this blog because of the unlikely circumstances and the things I’ve learned all through my life. There are a lot of things that I never thought I could do, feel and say.

    • I was doubtful that I would ever become a nurse because I already gave up my profession years ago. Yet here I am. I’ve been an ED nurse for almost five years now. 119473399_355719169122116_6642028365554287910_n
    • It was also unlikely that I would eat vegetables because I hated them ever since I was born. I now eat veggies if I can, and has been a part of my meal plan every week.
    • I find it ridiculous to work without being paid or getting any compensation. I volunteered in a public hospital at home for six months and even went on a 16-hour shift, free of charge.
    • I’ve always found it absurd to work in Makati because of how densely populated the city is. I worked in one of the busiest ED’s in the Philippines and is in Makati Central.

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    • I have always thought I would never age beyond 30 because life was so hard. I thought I would die of poverty. Now, I am turning 31 years old, just got married and just starting my own family with God at our center.
    • I’ve always believed that nothing good would ever come out of having a relationship with a coworker. My co-worker and I got married on the 9th of February this year in one of the most amazing places in New Zealand, Lake Tekapo.

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    These are just some of the circumstances in my life that I thought would never happen. I thought that the peculiar events in my life would come to an end when I got married. Yet, I feel as though I am just at the beginning of a bigger story. I used to dream big, that a lot of things I wished for was beyond my reach. All that ever mattered then was just survival. The luxury of choice was a mere illusion for me even after graduation.

    Everything went black and white after I finished school. It took years before I finally understood that I lived in a fairy tale full of fictional characters with no super powers against evil stepmothers. It’s funny how a few words can either lift your spirits or break them completely. Fortunately for me, my mother’s words, “God has plans, and yours are different from His plans” were words that I lived by.

    I believe that everyone changes every day, and as they age, they either shift for the better or the worst. And I have come to understand that maturity doesn’t come with age. It just happens.

    I hope everything goes well with everyone who had the same sentiments as I had when I first wrote this blog. I wish you well, and may God bless you in your future endeavors. I pray that may you find your peace.

    “It is never too late to start over. If you are not too happy with yesterday, try something different today, do not stay stuck. Do better.”

  • 5 Money Lessons My Thrifty Couple Friends Taught Me

    5 Money Lessons My Thrifty Couple Friends Taught Me

    How do we save money correctly? I think we all know the answer to that. Open a bank account, keep the cash, avoid clearances, blah blah. But do we really know how?

    Personal finance is a longstanding and a complicated issue. Obtaining a secure account will never be enough for someone who always thinks that everything in this world is a necessity. 

    Do you want to know why whatever you do, or how hard you work you always end up having $0 balance at the end of the day? I think you should start checking your spending habits.

    Now, do you have that friend who’s exaggeratedly thrifty? If you have one, I strongly suggest that you keep them in your circle and observe how they handle their finances. 

    I’ll tell you about the couple I met here in Dunedin.

    I studied international nursing when I arrived here in New Zealand, and we were in the same class. Being seatmates for quite some time, we became friends. 

    After knowing them for almost two years – I found out that they have loads of money to support their needs and still have enough for their wants. They’ve also been to different parts of the world, and they’re not even 30 years old. 

    They taught me a lot of things that I’ve known all along but just ignored. After a few days of hanging out with them, I ended up adapting some of their financial beliefs and habits. Here are some of my top favourites, 

    THEY DON’T BUY ANYTHING ON SALE EVEN IF THEY THINK THEY NEED IT (sometimes even if I think they need it lol)

    Yep, I think we’re all guilty when it comes to buying things we don’t need. I know this has been the most common reminder of all time. I know this from the bottom of my heart, but I just 100% ignore it. 

    Whenever we go to the mall, I can’t help but to observe their spending habits.

    They always deliberate whenever they want to buy something, even if they might need it in the future or whenever. Then after a few minutes of discussion, they end up not purchasing anything and choose to deliberate more for a few days. LOL

    Credits to Istock photos

    It gave me the realisation that we always buy things on sale because we think we might need them, even if we already have something comparable at home. 

    And that’s how we usually get carried away, and boom! We go home with the same product we bought a week ago but with just a different colour. 

    THEY DON’T CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT THEIR APPEARANCE. 

    Ever since I’ve been friends with them, I’ve never bought anything more than $100. Even my wedding gown cost $49.99, it looked awful at first, but after some alteration, it ended up looking like it’s worth $700-$900. We bought it in a thrift shop. 

    We never buy clothes for more than $2NZD when we’re in a second-hand shop, but if we’re in a boutique, we don’t purchase anything that’s more than $50NZD. 

    Plus, most of the clothes I buy from clearance shops are nice and classy. Sometimes, I even find treasures like Zara and Cotton On. At least, if I don’t wear them much or if they don’t fit anymore, it’ll be easier to give them up. 

    It’s better to have a backup plan when things get out of hand than a pile of expensive clothes that will wear and tear in time. 

    THEY DON’T LIKE BUYING ANYTHING IN INSTALLMENT.

    Save now, buy later – I think that’s always their mantra. They never buy anything that involves split payments. I know it may be impossible for some, but I realised that if you’re patient enough to save – it’s possible. 

    And whenever they buy something, they always check the tag description to verify if there are free goods and the discount or the interest if they pay it in cash. Let’s all be honest, we usually look at the price tag, and then that’s it. 

    Credits to IStock Photo

    They create a plan for everything, especially when it comes to spending. And to be honest, I’m amazed by this couple’s attention to detail. 

    WHY SPEND MORE ON A EXPENSIVE PRODUCT IF YOU CAN SPEND LESS. 

    This couple taught me that patience is a virtue. They will look around for as long as they can if they want something. It doesn’t matter if it’ll take days. They won’t stop till they find something cheaper.

    She always tells me things like, “don’t buy that chair for $100, if you can get it in Kmart for less than $50”. She also taught me that having fun is a matter of personal opinion, and having the patience to look for coupons and discounts before buying something is always a good thing to consider. 

    THEY ALWAYS HELP OTHERS WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN. 

    This couple helps everyone. They are kind people who speak kind words to those who need it, especially the struggling ones. I know this may be out of topic, but I think it’s quite important.

    They don’t overcharge their tenants as landlords, they lend money to those who need it, live with a positive mindset, and remain humble beyond compare. 

    These are just some of the things they’ve taught me for almost one year. I realised that if you’re with the right people who can influence you with the proper mindset, your goals become more attainable and realistic. 

    Then the next thing you know, you’ve saved up more than you could ever think.

    Everything becomes too overpriced, and people keep on purchasing things they don’t need because of FOMO (fear of missing out). 

    Even though I have a huge debt, I was able to save money. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to indulge yourself and enjoy your hard-earned money, but sometimes, the world gets so greedy that people’s lives just revolves around it. 

  • Compilation: A Year in New Zealand

    Compilation: A Year in New Zealand

    God has been really good to us. This video is a compilation of some of the best places we’ve been in the southern island of New Zealand and the wonderful people we’ve known along the way.

    Living far away from home means being separated from your old self. So, instead of focusing on your homesickness, why not wander around and explore the beauty of your city. Remember, God created the world with the best of the best.

    We’ve hiked some of the best trails in South Island, New Zealand – Roys Peak, Pineapple Track, and Mt Cook. We’ve visited the famous Wanaka Tree and Milford Sound – videos and pictures to follow.

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    And one of the best things that happened to us was when we met the people who became family.

    I’m happy that God introduced these people to us. They’ve taught us that life is worth living despite the difficulties. They taught us that we shouldn’t rush things because time has its way of getting ahead, and it’s something that God doesn’t want us to know yet.

    We have friends that are not included in this clip because we lost some of the videos we had with them. But, you know who you are guys, thanks for always being with us. You guys may be miles away, from north to south, still, thank you.

    Thank you for the laughter, lessons, encouragement, hospitality and for being our strength when everything seems to be failing.

    Credit to the Culture Trip for the Photo

  • Hiatus, Why We Need It.

    Hiatus, Why We Need It.

    Lately, I’ve been pushing myself to keep writing articles everyday so I will never run out of ideas. Plus, they said I can also gain the reader’s trust by posting an article everyday.

    So, I did my best to produce a quality and interesting blog everyday.

    I love to write and my head is full of ideas, but I realised, putting words from your mouth should come from your heart not only from your mind.

    I got burned out from waking up at 7:00, sometimes 5:00 just to start researching on topics that can help me. I want to learn more about how to keep the traffic in my site and all.

    Until I read a blog that says, “writing is all about speaking words through a pen from your heart. That’s why you need to think about every word you write, every sentence you construct, and every idea you share, everyday.”

    So, I changed my habit from writing everyday, to maybe every other day, and publish at least 2-4 articles a week. I think that’s way better.

    I think I got too excited from having loads of ideas I have in head. Maybe because I’ve always wanted to write ever since but I can’t due to my 12-hours shifts as a nurse.

    But now, since God gave me the time to explore my goals and pursue my dream to write, I think I should spend it wisely.

    What do you guys think of writing three times a week? Is it much better than producing a blog everyday? Let me know your thoughts in the comment. I think nobody can talk about this topic better than you guys.

  • Congratulations On Getting 10 Total Follows!

    Congratulations On Getting 10 Total Follows!

    Disclaimer: Featured photo taken from istockphoto

    Thank you for everyone! This is a huge achievement for me 💜 I believe in celebrating small victories, it’s one way of defining success. 🙂

    I’ve been blogging since I was 16 years old, there was no wordpress back then, so I was using blogspot.

    It’s funny when you try to re-read your old blogs. I was laughing when I read my first ever article, It was dramatic, annoying, cringey and confusing.

    It was full of life though.

    I can’t even remember why I wrote it. I have a bad habit of mixing ideas that they become complicated and irritating.

    Now, I think I’m much more comfortable and confident to write. I’ve been hiding my blogs ever since cause I’m scared but then I’ve decided that words should be read and stories should be shared.

    I never even thought that someone would be interested enough to read our blog. Lol

    None of this is possible if not for:

    1. God, who gave us the gift and the desire to write.

    2. My number one editor/writer/husband – Miko! A man whose gift has been hidden for a long time. Let’s go Miko!

    3. The readers who thinks our blogs are awesome! Thank you! I hope you continue visiting our site ♥️

    Thank you for your time 💜

  • 5 Things To Remind Yourself When Your Impatience Is Getting Out Of Control

    5 Things To Remind Yourself When Your Impatience Is Getting Out Of Control

    Don’t let your impatience mess with your life decisions. Always make sure to remember these five most ignored reminders.

    Most of our decisions are based on the understanding that things need to be done ASAP. We want that job right away after graduation, buy our first car and move to our first home.

    We even become impatient with the smallest of choices, such as where to eat, when we buy our new gadgets, or when will the bank approve our credit card application.

    These are just some of the examples I encounter every day in my life. I realized that the more impatient I become, the more irresponsible my decisions are. Society tells us that we’re living in a world where ‘speed is the name of the game.’ People have forgotten the saying, “slowly but surely”.

    Imagine the terror of being in debt for ten years just cause you can’t wait to save up. It’s okay to want things, but don’t stress yourself too much. Dream in moderation, set realistic goals and never doubt your capacity to improve.

    As we all move forward, everything gets more disorganized, people are afraid to run out of things and it is really dissapointing to witness. More and more people are getting mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted every day.

    I know that sometimes, life can be difficult. But I believe that God has plans for everyone, even for those who don’t believe in Him.

    Always remember:

    1. Let’s not let the world force us to believe that it’s first come, first serve. Rather, let’s teach ourselves to be kind to those who have been waiting, offer a helping hand to those who are hoping, and pray for ourselves that we may have the patience and the perseverance to be content with what we have.

    2. Let’s all be vigilant especially when everything doesn’t seem to be working according to how we planned it. Don’t rush things especially if it sounds too good to be true.

    3. Whenever we make a decision, regardless of how significant, we should always think about the lifelong impact it will have in our life.

    Remember, a fruitful tree doesn’t grow overnight even if you feed it with the most expensive fertilizer. It needs the right amount of water to bloom. Sometimes, even the tallest trees rot if they’re overwatered.

    4. Never let your impatience mess up your life decisions. Establish a set of plans for each setback. Even if you think it’ll fail, at least you tried.

    5. And finally, quit looking at social media if you think it’s affecting your every day choice, or else you might end up living regretting a decision you’ve made just cause Facebook thinks you need it.

  • Random Review: 4 of the Best Skin Care Cruelty-Free Products We Use Every Day

    Random Review: 4 of the Best Skin Care Cruelty-Free Products We Use Every Day

    Disclaimer: None of the links are affiliated with any marketing company, the purpose of this blog is just to give out information and provide links for easy access for readers.

    Ever since I finished college, I’ve always wanted to support any organization that saves the environment. It was difficult for me because I wasn’t earning that much money yet. So, I just did what I can to make a difference. I was raised in a family that never really cared what product we used as long as it got us through the day. Which is why I am gradually starting to be very particular on the products I consume. 

    After quite some time, I managed to keep on using cruelty-free goods. It was difficult cause there were limited options, plus most of these products are way more expensive. 

    I didn’t want to spend a lot, so I researched for two weeks about some of the cheapest (less than $100) but quality and cruelty-free products out there. 

    Let me share some of my top four cruelty-free facial skin care.

    1. Youth to the People (Facial Wash)
    2. Pixi Toner
    3. The Ordinary
    4. Youth to the People (Superberry Hydrate Mask)

    1. YOUTH TO THE PEOPLE – FACIAL CLEANSER

    • Price: NZD $63.00
    • Shelf Life: 2 months
    • Frequency: Twice a day
    • Skin Type: Combination, Dry, Normal, Oily and Sensitive

    Proof: Ethical Bunny’s Email to Youth to the People and Leaping Bunny’s Product Description

    I think this is by far the best facial wash I’ve used. I was skeptical at first because of my dry and oily skin but it worked well. It doesn’t have a strong smell unlike other facial cleansers.

    My face feels soft and fresh after every use. The only issue I have is that they don’t have an outlet here in New Zealand. So far, this is the best facial cleanser that even my husband started using it. 

    It comes with a pressure nozzle and regular lid which makes it super convenient to bring even when you travel. 

    Check it out at Youth to The People if you want to know more about the cleanser, like the ingredients and how to properly use it.

    Where to find:

    2. PIXI TONER

    • Price: NZD $53.00
    • Shelf Life: Almost two months
    • Frequency: Twice a day
    • Skin Type: For all skin types

    Proof: Included in the list of Crueltyfreekitty – a credible blog page whenever I want to buy products from companies that don’t test on animals.

    Review: I’ve used several toners in the past and it made my face drier. I’m pretty happy with Pixi toner. It’s the the best toner I’ve used. They have a lot of toners but I particularly like the glow tonic. My face feels clean, and my pores feel tighter. 

    After a few months of using this toner, my husband’s blackheads are less visible and hopefully will disappear soon. It’s a great exfoliator plus my face feels hydrated as well. 

    It doesn’t give me an alcohol-type of dryness feeling even after using it. The only thing is, it doesn’t dry up right away, so you have to wait for a few minutes before applying your serum or cream or elso you’ll just wipe it all away.

    It comes in two sizes but I suggest you buy the 250 ml one.

    You can check out Pixi Beauty’s website if you want to know more about the ingredients and read to reviews.

    Where to find:

    You can spot one in retail stores such as Farmers (if you live in New Zealand), but if there’s none you can always check Sephora – Pixi Toner or their main website and choose between the international or US site.

    3. THE ORDINARY SERUM Niacinamide 10% + Zinc 1%

    • Price: Less than $15.00 in NZ
    • Shelf Life: One month and a half
    • Frequency: Every other day
    • Skin Type: For all skin types

    Proof: Can be found in Leaping Bunny for cruelty-free products and verified by Deciem‘s statement.

    Review: Lately, this product is taking the market by storm. Whenever I go to Farmer’s I always find the need to squeeze in the cubicle where The Ordinary is. They usually run out of stock so I started buying an extra one just in case.

    I only use the serum every other day. My face became quite dry when I tried using it twice a day. But after shifting it to every other day, it worked out pretty well. My face became soft, and most of my dark and red spots lightened up. 

    Plus it has niacinamide and zinc which apparently are two important vitamins that’s good for the skin.

    Someone told me to avoid the sunlight when if I’m going to apply it to my face. I’m not sure why, do share some comments if you have any experience using this product. 

    Where to find:

    Available in all stores, and in some chemist boutiques. If you can’t find any in your local pharmacy, you can check out The Ordinary site that caters international buyers, just change the location and you’re good to go.

    4. YOUTH TO THE PEOPLE Superberry Hydrate + Glow Dream Mask

    • Price: NZD $84.00
    • Shelf Life: Two months
    • Frequency: Every night
    • Skin Type: Combination, Dry, Normal, Oily, Sensitive

    Proof: Ethical Bunny’s Email to Youth to the People and Leaping Bunny’s Product Description

    Review: This gel-formed mask is one of my favorites. My face felt so soft just after two days of using it. It’s not that slimy on the face, unlike the other creams that I’ve used. 

    My face still feels clean after waking up, and to think that I’m a messy sleeper. Additionally, because I live in a very cold city, the mask makes my face feel hydrated and clean and it usually lasts for a day. You also don’t need use a lot because just a small amount of the product is enough to cover your face assuming you have a small face. Where to Find:

    These are the products that we use every day. Some of them are quite expensive which is why I did careful research on each product.

    I haven’t found a day cream that works well for me that doesn’t test on animals. So, as of the moment, we don’t apply any day cream. I’m thinking of checking out Paula’s Choice but it’ll be too much pricey for me since they don’t have an outlet in New Zealand plus they’re not available in Sephora too.

    After researching the proper way on how to apply it, I just do it like this:

    1. Facial Cleanser – to remove any dirt or make-up
    2. Pixi Toner – to prime the face, prep the dry areas, wait for at least 3-5 minutes to dry.
    3. The Ordinary Serum – it’s just vitamins for the skin really
    4. Superberry Hydrate Mask – I don’t use eye cream so I just go straight for the mask. I just apply in on my face and neck area then that’s it.

    I don’t really have an 8-step guide to perfect face as of the moment, but I’d say this routine fits our budget and is quite effective. If you guys have any suggestion, feel free to drop a comment below. Thanks for reading!

  • Dad.

    Dad.

    Disclaimer: Featured Image taken from Alyssa Huddleston’s Pinterest

    Dad Recently, I’ve been thinking about how to be a dad. I’m in my 30s and most of my friends are new dads. So whenever I have this discussion with my wife, she would always tell me to ask some of them.

    They would say, ‘why not ask your dad?’. I and my wife have been planning on having a family and honest to God, I am scared. I feel terrified probably because I’m not ready, though most people would say ‘No one’s ever ready.’ How I wish I could ask mine.

    Unfortunately, my dad passed away back in 2013. As cliche as it sounds, the last time I spoke to him was not very pleasant. I was an angry kid back then. I was being selfish not knowing my dad was already knocking on heaven’s door. I guess after 8 years, that moment would be my only regret.

    How I wish time machines existed so I could talk to him one last time and ask him how he did it.

    Credits to Vail Daily

    My father was the best dad I know. He would always extend his arms to help out people in need. I always thought that was his biggest weakness, seeing as how family and friends took advantage of him.

    Yet no matter how angry I and my siblings were to those people, my dad never showed his anger. Oh, how easy it was for him to shrug off negative emotions and look at the brighter side of things.

    Credits to Brightside

    However, dad kind of did give in to those emotions in the end. I kind of thought he felt disappointed for how things went back then. We were in a ton of debt, he lost all his money on the stock market and probably seeing everything he worked hard for being credited to someone else made him frustrated in the end.

    I guess only he can answer those questions. When he died, my mother said, ‘Dad died a poor man.’ But for me, it didn’t matter if he was poor, all that mattered is he died a great Dad.

    Dad would always find a way to give us what we needed even though we had debt collectors at our doorstep. He always said that education was the only thing he could give us. He taught us that even if the world turned upside down, all my siblings and I would have is each other. He showed us his love in his own cool way.

    Credits to Discover Society

    Dad never ate unless everyone was together. He never showed us that he was a man of God, but for some reason, I always felt that God was with him. He was always so cool whenever I had my friends around our place.

    He always had this amazing power that made people want to be around him and look up to him. I could list a hundred more reasons but he was and will forever be the greatest man I know. I guess looking back, I got the answers I was looking for.

    So thank you, Dad, Thank you for being awesome. Thank you for teaching me how to use chopsticks, how to drive and how to change a flat tire. Thank you for never giving up on me when I failed that semester. Thank you for teaching me to save my money and not buy unnecessary things.

    Thank you for throwing away your riches for us. Thank you for loving us so unconditionally and so selfless. Finally, thank you for being my dad.

    For J. Chua

  • Cinemaroma: Review About The Photographer Who Captured The Heart of Our Wedding

    Cinemaroma: Review About The Photographer Who Captured The Heart of Our Wedding
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    Capturing the most magical moments in your life requires careful and meticulous planning especially for a wedding. I admit we had a hard time finding the perfect photographer during our wedding. When I was a bit younger, I thought you could just choose the most expensive option and then that should do the trick. However, there are a lot of considerations like your budget, the quality of the photos/videos and the location as well.

    We struggled to find the one that’ll suit our conditions, till we met Omar. 

    Red Velvet Cake

    Omar is a professional photographer who’s got superb skills that’s currently residing in Dunedin, NZ. He takes photography and videography on a different level. 

    I am a huge fan of wedding videos especially the ones that celebrities share on their respective platforms. Omar exceeded our expectations. The finished product was on par with prominent video makers in the Philippines. Me and my husband was speechless when we saw our wedding video, it was the culmination of all our hard work. 

    He was efficient, organized and patient as well. He was very creative, energetic and easygoing that we just followed whatever he told me without noticing that we were done. 

    He makes you comfortable and confident in front of the camera. I never thought I’d be able to do awkward poses but for some reason he manages to capture the best of the moment.

    His energy and laughter is so contagious that we had such a blast during the entire shoot!

    He goes the extra mile. We had our wedding in Lake Tekapo. He suggested stopping by some awesome picturesque areas on the way which was a really good idea. It was raining during the ceremony and he didn’t care if he was going to get wet. All he ever cared was to capture the right moment at the right time. He was open to our ideas as well, and did the final product exactly how we wished it would be. 

    So, if you’re ever in Dunedin or anywhere in Otago, New Zealand looking for a photographer, look for Cinemaroma.

    I was amazed by his passion for photography. To think that he works five days a week, on a night shift, and is a father. I couldn’t help but ask, “How do you cope with all this?”

    “My wife and I like creating magical moments. We like keeping memories, they make us happy.”

    I attached some of the photos on this blog for your reference. If you want to check out his works, you can view his Facebook profile.

  • How I Pushed Myself to Wake Up Early

    How I Pushed Myself to Wake Up Early

    I’ve recently developed a habit that has made my days productive. Back when I still lived in my home country, I’ve always had tons of ideas in my mind. Things thoughts remained in my brain because I lacked the initiative to confront them. I always thought of the obstacles and consequences that come with ideas maybe because of how complex my life was back then. I only had one goal then — earn money.

    I was in a lot of debt, so I needed to grind every single day. I was rostered at least three 12-hour shifts in a week, sometimes more. Recently, I realized that me doing all that work was just a lousy excuse for me to sleep at least 12 hours a day. I didn’t want to wake up early because I thought I needed to catch up on the hours of sleep I lost doing those shifts. So —

    I decided to force myself to wake up early.

    It was difficult to be honest, but I think this should be everybody’s goal. It’s a SMART goal, it’s specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely. I’m a shift worker so I’m usually rostered different times a day. I started to focus on developing immutable habits that I think helped me achieve this goal.

    1. I ASKED MYSELF, “WHY DO YOU I WANT TO WAKE UP EARLY?”

    The first thing I did before all of this started, was to get some coffee, a pen and a piece of paper. The most important factor in waking up early is to have a reason why and then my motivation came afterwards. I made a list of some of my short and long term goals. I wanted to write again, learn how to bake, try day trading, and hopefully one day make an exercise routine.

    2. I READ VARIOUS ARTICLES AND FOCUSED ON WHAT WILL WORK

    I read an article entitled “How I became an Early Riser” and it really helped me a lot. I never did everything the article said but it was a small step into that accolade. Remember, waking up early depends on your reason and what you want to accomplish. Of all the tips I’ve read, I found two that really helped me a lot. The first was putting my phone one meter away from me. So, whenever I hear my alarm clock going off, I have to get up to stop it.

    Second tip was consistency, slowly but surely. As soon as you’ve decided, don’t make drastic changes. If you usually wake up at 12:00 noon, try to set your alarm to 9:00 am initially and then gradually adjust as days go by the hour until you reach your goal. I made a mistake trying to wake up at 7:00 am on day one of this regimen because my body couldn’t handle it. Starting at 8:00 am then down to 7:00 worked really well for me. It’s still a work in progress and hopefully the day comes that I can wake up at 06:00 AM.

    One of the common reasons why people hate waking up in the morning is having severe headache with mild nausea. It doesn’t matter how many cups of coffee you drink, if you sleep more than 7-8 hours of less, you will have these symptoms. The article Sleep Foundation, has studies that an adult needs at least 7-9 hours to feel energized.

    3. STOP PROCRASTINATING

    “If there’s something you want, there’s a way, and if there’s something you don’t, then there’s always a reason.” It’s a saying we had back home that I translated rather horribly that I think applies to habit number four. Back then, I kept telling myself — “I can sleep more today since I was quite tired yesterday.” I only realized it lately that I was just giving myself a reason not to achieve my own goal. We all learn from our mistakes, so what I do now is when I’m tired the day before, I adjust my alarm a little bit. Remember the hours you need and focus on it, it works well for me. Additionally, If you want to do something, do it right away. I usually start my day with a, “I need to” goal. Remove the word ‘maybe’ from your vocabulary.

    4. DON’T OPEN SOCIAL MEDIA AS SOON AS YOU OPEN YOUR EYES

    It’s still a work in progress for me because as soon as I open my eyes and shut the alarm, my reflexes tend to open my Facebook or messenger for me. I end up sitting at the edge of the bed for a couple of hours. Hours lost that I could have used doing something else productive.

    5. SET UP SHORT – TERM GOALS FOR THE DAY

    Setting up reminders is what helped me the most. I changed the notification bell on my device into something goofy like duck sounds just to make it fun. I regularly create a basic list of the things I want to accomplish on that day and it’s quite cute to hear a duck reminding me to do something on a regular basis.

    6. APPRECIATE SMALL VICTORIES

    I have to admit, it is quite hard developing a habit. But it is worth it especially if you see all your effort turning into progress. Do your best to stick to your schedule, but never forget to celebrate small victories and appreciate the impact of your progression in your life.

  • Unspoken Words Of Friendship

    Unspoken Words Of Friendship

    I have a friend who lives on the other side of the world. We met as co-workers once but went our separate ways. We were able to maintain our friendship despite the distance. It’s not as if we talk to each other that much, but when we do, we talk about some of the worst stories. We find our conversations pretty hilarious especially our misfortunes. It was funny talking about it but we shared the pain when some of the best people in our lives left us because they thought we were being a “toxic” friend.

    Despite the same sentiments, we have different reasons why we don’t involve ourselves that much with friends anymore. I guess it’s frightening to trust and go through that dreadful feeling of betrayal all over again. After a recent conversation, I realized that she had loads of valid reasons why she didn’t want to go to their get together. But since she’s a nice person, she couldn’t tell them why she wouldn’t join them and probably never will. I really hope one day her friends get to read this. My heart goes out to you dear friend.

    After you guys left me, I understood the reality of this world. It made me realize how I relied on everybody for everything and how everyone influenced my decisions. I didn’t have any choice but to endure the bitter taste of loneliness. I’ve made bad decisions that I know I’ll regret forever. 

    It pains me to look at you guys from afar, but I’m tired of being judged and laughed at. I’m not perfect, and I know that I make the wrong decisions over and over again. But like you guys, I’m human too. 

    Human beings are born sensitive – it is an attribute that is forgotten most of the time. At some point in time, no matter how hard we convince ourselves that we want to start fresh, meet new people, go to places we’ve never been, we will miss seeing familiar faces. To remember how it felt to be immature and yourself before the world changed us. 

    I’ve always thought that friends are gifts from God. They never get old as long as you take care of them but then, I realized they’re more than that – they’re family. And like family, they need to go on their own and nurture themselves to grow and bloom like beautiful flowers in this weed-infested society. 

    Despite everything, I thank you for all the wonderful memories you’ve given me. I give my sincere thanks to all the hurtful words you said. They made me better and more courageous. Thanks for leaving me on my own, I’ve learned that you have to experience loneliness before solitude. And also thanks for saying goodbye, you’ve taught me to face life’s consequences alone.

    I’m happy that you’ve freed yourself from my toxicity. I hope one day I can set myself free from you guys too.